by Manitonquat
May 23, 2014
This is an excerpt from the book "Have you lost your Tribe?" by the
native American elder Manitonquat. He is the author of several books
(non fiction and fiction). They are available
through www.circleway.org. As the discussion is unfolding how we can
change humankind's direction his thinking and wisdom is a major
contribution. Together with his wife Ellika he brings the knowledge
of the Circle Way of living to interested people all over the world
in camps and workshops. To learn more visit
www.circleway.org
There are over three hundred million indigenous people in the world
today.
Most of them indentify with a tribe and actually live among
their people in traditional tribal areas.
The rest of the world is
either of mixed tribal heritage or has lost connection and knowledge
of any tribal lineage in their families.
It is my experience that
most people today feel isolated and unconnected with the communities
around them and very many of them feel the longing for the kind of
closeness and mutual support that the idea of a tribe conveys to
them.
Manitonquat
(Medicine
Story)
“Only tribes will
survive."
- Vine Deloria Jr.
Lakota
Manitonquat
It seems Old Man Winter doesn't want to move on yet.
He
threw some more snow on us last night, and the wind outside is
pretty chilling. So it's good we have plenty of firewood and we have
our stove making it warm and cozy in here now.
I burned some sweet
grass to give us a nice clean new atmosphere in the room, and I put
my prayers for opening our minds together into a pinch of tobacco
that I gave to the fire.
Let's settle down, get comfortable, and consider this subject of
tribes and the tribal way of organizing ourselves. Take a moment to
breathe into the subject, the idea of belonging the possibility of a
community that you may call your own and would support you and be
supported by you.
When I ask you "have you lost your tribe?" I should describe what I
mean by the word "tribe".
The word has a bad reputation these days
with so many tribes led by hereditary chieftains that in many places
are absolute autocrats of patriarchal fiefdoms that are often
abusive and brutal to women and children. That is certainly not what
I think about when I hear the word tribe.
There are over three hundred million indigenous people in the world
today. Most of them indentify with a tribe and actually live among
their people in traditional tribal areas.
The rest of the world is
either of mixed tribal heritage or has lost connection and knowledge
of any tribal lineage in their families. It is my experience that
most people today feel isolated and unconnected with the communities
around them and very many of them feel the longing for the kind of
closeness and mutual support that the idea of a tribe conveys to
them.
I am a person of a mixed background, but I have a primary identity
as an Assonet
Wampanoag, which is the largest part of my own
heritage. I am also one sixteenth Swedish and feel very at home with
my wife's welcoming family in Sweden.
The Assonet Band of the
Wampanoag, on the mainland of southeastern Massachusetts and eastern
Rhode Island is autonomous and has a chief, male or female, who is
appointed by the clan mother at the behest of the women of the band
after they have conferred with the men.
If the chief were to do
something the women disapproved of, they would let him know, and if
he continued to defy them, they would choose another chief to
conform to the will of the people. In modern times this has not ever
happened.
So my notion of tribalism stems from our practices, as well as from
my association with many first nations across North America, rather
than from other tribes around the world with whose histories and
cultural traditions I am unfamiliar.
Our traditions, as I was taught by our elders, relate tribal life to
the circle. In a circle all are equal, all are heeded.
The way that
Black Elk, the Oglala holy man, put it,
"In the old days, when we were a
strong and happy people, all our power came from the sacred hoop
of the nation. As long as that hoop remained unbroken the people
flourished."
My elders assured me that, although the instructions to live in a
circle was transmitted through our traditions, it was a way for all
people, not just for us. Not an "Indian way" but a "human being
way".
As they instructed me to do I have been passing along this
information to others around the world for forty years now.
I learned from the elders and saw for myself what were the benefits
of the circle way of living; being a scholar I also studied to
understand what happened to the circle in history. It was clear this
way was the most ancient and most successful form of society ever
used by human beings.
I am planning a longer study of history and pre-history to
investigate what happened to the circle and why it was not
incorporated into the beginnings of civilization. The overly simple
answer to that is that civilization in most places began with sudden
explosions of population that obliterated the tribal circles with
sheer numbers of people.
The energy that held circles together was
mutual protection and support that developed our very human
attributes of cooperation and caring. The energy, in other words, of
love.
When the mutual support and caring of the circles was no
longer available, the new world of strangers was frightening. Out of
that fear arose individuals desperate to survive and using their
strength and cunning to do so, generally by means of violence.
The
chaos of population without circles was soon replaced by a different
order: the order of warlords, of authority and hierarchy, held
together by the threat of violence, of death or enslavement.
The
energy, in other words, of fear.
The newly ordered warrior societies began to conquer their neighbors
and forced them to submit to their warrior rule. And so proceeds all
of history for past ten thousand years, wrestling all power from the
women and oppressing the children. Our people, the natives of North
America, were one of the last to be conquered and brought under this
rule of of man-made law and violence.
Many years ago I listened to Liberian exile's description of the
history of his people.
In his lifetime he had seen the transition
from the circle, from the equality of all people, from the simple
village life - no ownership but complete sharing and cooperation - to
the imported civilization and the autocracy of bureaucracy and U.S.
corporations.
We stood in a circle there in
Shoshone country, our
arms about each other, and there were tears flooding his eyes as he
told us,
"What we lost was this. What we lost
was love."
The social form of fear which gave rise to,
...as well as,
-
loneliness
-
hopelessness
-
terror and terrorism
We have not created this society, but it has a hand in creating us.
In making us feel powerless, forcing us to conform, using its
wealth to isolate us, to keep us from creating a more human system
and convincing us that happiness is being able to buy a lot of
material stuff, keeping us tied to deadening jobs to pay for them,
as their acquisition depletes the earth.
Most of the world has accepted this state of things because they see
no alternative.
They make the best of it, even if it means taking on
more jobs and cutting themselves further from closeness with their
children and families, from friends and elders.
There are signs now
of worldwide discontent:
-
uprisings of young people against
oppressive
governments
-
terrorism by people feeling powerless and unheard
-
craziness of individuals
breaking under the stress and killing loved ones, children
and random strangers
But the need for a more human way of life has also been moving in a
more positive and creative direction.
The consideration of that and
how you might use it to make a better life for yourself and a better
society for everyone is the subject of these talks. This direction,
which has been building for many decades, slowly over half a
century, has been picking up speed because of our environmental
crisis.
The term that has been adopted by many
people involved is "eco-village".
Thousands of people around the world with
the understanding that "small is beautiful", are networking and
learning from each other how to create sustainable lifestyles that
will not deplete the planet's resources or harm other life forms.
You could call these communities tribes, they are certainly living
together cooperatively, in mutual support of each other to some
degree, and caring for the land that supports them. Most of these
people would not object to being called tribal, and indeed some of
them think of themselves that way.
But I would like to propose a
further investigation of the benefits to be gained by living the
circle way of life.
For that I want you to consider these aspects of tribal societies,
and
in the future I will refer to them together as
the Circle Way,
which is how I call what I explore and teach in our workshop and
camps.
Now I want you to know that I do not believe that any society has
ever been perfect any more than any individual person has. There
have been and are tribal societies that have gone out of balance
and acted in less than human ways.
If you ask me why of course I do
not know, but I feel quite sure that the origins of inhumanity are
to be found in fear. It is fear that prompted societies to
propitiate the gods in blood, in violence and mistreatment. The
monotheistic
religions of the world have also suffered from that
affliction.
But in my experience of the many indigenous peoples of the world I
am convinced these fearful practices are not common, are in fact
rare anomalies overall.
So, even as we might consider an ideal human
being upon which to model our actions, I would propose we describe
an ideal society to be a model for our community.
Imagine now that you were experiencing a life in such a community.
As a baby being born you would open your eyes to a group of loving
women, the midwives and helper assistants who have been waiting for
the magical moment of your appearance, to help you into this world
in the softest and gentlest way. There is nothing but wonder and
gratitude at your arrival.
The faces you see are smiling with love
and gleaming with tears of joy. You are here at last!
The whole
tribe is waiting to meet you and cheer you into their world. You
look to make connections and each one wants to connect with you, to
help and guide you. Your coming has brought new happiness to the
people. You have many relatives: the whole village is your family.
Growing up when there are confusions and frustrations, conflicts
losses and other unavoidable hurts, there are many to learn from,
wise elders and storytellers, clan mothers, aunties, uncles, older
children. Through the years of your life you stay close to these
people, and as you grow old the love received and the love you give
reach ever deeper dimensions.
You work and play and celebrate together, through laughter and
through grief, through the birth of babies, their growing to adults,
and the coming of new generations. All helping one another, learning
together, planting harvesting, building together, dreaming together,
and filling the seasons with celebration.
This is the Circle Way...
Human beings became human because they came
together to help each other and we have evolved with helpfulness as
a basic ingredient of our nature. I that way each one was equally
important, each must be listened to, to be understood and
appreciated.
This is why as long as the circle was unbroken the
people flourished. When we lose the circle we lose each other, we
become afraid, and we lose our humanity. And that is why we live
today in such a inhuman world.
Even when we lose all that and begin to hurt ourselves and others,
the circle can heal us. The circle can make us human again.
That is
what happens in our prison circles. Simply by learning respect, by
treating each other respectfully, listening to one another, being
there to support each other, the circle members begin to heal.
I was touched the other night by a man called Little Wolf in one of
those circles.
He was considering the coming prospect of his release
and said,
"I don't want to leave, because that means I leave my
family behind, the only real family I have."
That closeness, feeling
at home with the people around us, that feeling of family-hood, is
what we all need, and now the goal for Little Wolf must be when he
gets out to find a circle or to make one and to keep getting close
and building family wherever he is.
That is the goal for all of us, if we want to live a truly human
life, to keep growing our circle, expanding our love, our capacity
to give and receive affection and encouragement and appreciation, to
listen and to understand and support one another.
What made us human was this experience of living tribally, in a
circle of equals, in groups larger than the extended families of our
primate relatives but small enough that the individuals were able to
know each other well.
A true tribe must provide protection and
support to every member equally. I a truly human society there can
be no discrimination against any individual regardless of age,
physical or mental capacity, sex, or sexual preference.
The whole tribe, therefore, has a sense of involvement and
responsibility for each child, which takes a lot of burden off the
parents. As well as the elders, clan leaders and band chiefs, the
siblings, the grand parents, the aunts and uncles, the cousins, all
have roles in helping and guiding the little children.
The child
grows with a sense of belonging, of being cared about, of having a
place and a value among his or her people.
Consider too the effect on all the adults of the tribe of being
with, caring for and guiding the children. When we honor the
children, when we listen to them and pay attention to their thoughts
and feelings, it has a wonderful effect on us. It nurtures our own
sense of caring and our thoughts for their welfare.
And when we have
that attitude of caring and paying good attention to them, we are
constantly being confronted by the innate wisdom that we once
ourselves possessed, that we brought into this world in our nature.
That wisdom which the exigencies of survival in our complicated and
confusing world have buried in forgotten closets of our
consciousness. Consider the effect that living so close to the
children in the community would have had on our evolution as social
beings. Consider how far from that closeness and humanity our
society has come in our isolation from each other.
Imagine how
having that wisdom again, living such closeness with respect,
compassion, caring, growing and learning with our children might
affect the world today.
To children the world is still viewable from the simple stance of
what is pleasant or unpleasant, sweet or sour, fun or not fun,
interesting or boring, kind or mean, healing or hurtful.
My friend
Robert Alter learned from his daughter when she was a little girl
that everything in life could be described as either "yum" or
"yuck!"
Little children, feeling safe and cared about, excited just to be
alive, finding the world a curious and interesting place, want above
all to have fun and to laugh. Imagine what it really means to any
community to have such teachers with them, to have free happy
children to show us about freedom and happiness, to make us laugh
and to teach us how to play.
Children are always in the moment. They have not yet narrowed their
concerns and everything is interesting and a kind of miracle.
They
want to learn and understand it all. Today we send them to
institutions to learn – institutions that uniformly destroy all
their curiosity and make learning drudgery and hardly ever any fun.
Living closely together, cooperating, communicating, learning from
each one, making each one important, developing our caring and
understanding and therefore our love and compassion, listening to
the old and young alike and honoring all - that is how we evolved
into Homo sapiens sapiens, the wise, wise ones.
But we are in danger of turning that evolution back, returning to
the world of baboons that are always fighting or indifferent to on
another. Because we have lost our tribes, we have been isolated from
each other when we all need each other. We have substituted nations
for tribes.
Nations that demand our loyalty, our praise, our money,
but give so little in return that the majority of people in even the
richest nations are struggling for survival while a fortunate few
have more wealth than they can use.
(The income gap is huge and
growing. At this time in the U.S. the average income of the bottom
90% of people is $31,244 a year while
the top 1% earn 1.1 million.
Since World War II the share of the nation's income for the lowest
80% of people has been falling and continues to fall.)
Still the wealthy few are unsatisfied.
They do not want to share or
to help others have a fair share of the Earth's resources. They do
not even enjoy the moment. They want more. They don't have deep and
satisfying relationships. They don't spend fun-time with their
children, they are only driven to make more stuff, or to make money
from their money. To be smarter dealers and more conspicuous
consumers.
The lack of love, our most precious capacity and experience, is
illustrated every moment of every day just by watching what is
presented on television, the window to our culture.
First, of
course, the news, full of wars and violence and political attacks
and acrimony, of local crimes and corruption; then there are the
soap operas about people unable to communicate, consummate or enjoy
relationships; we see "reality" shows set up to pit people against
each other, talk shows with people making sly put-downs of others,
and silliness that passes for humor, game shows that are only about
winning big a prize.
Especially telling:
the endless flow of crime
dramas capitalizing on people's fears and playing up the horrors
created by socio- or psychopathic villains.
Only sporting events
seem comparatively untouched by all that and sometimes even seem to
counteract the isolation, as when teams and individuals publicly
show affection for one another after the game.
Yet even that is
spoiled by the fanatical fans that riot at many European football
matches.
And over all that is the constant, pounding repetition of the
commercials, reminding us that the only important thing in our lives
is stuff. Stuff to make you attractive, stuff to make others envy
you, stuff to make you feel important or powerful, stuff to at least
reduce your pain, but stuff that will never actually satisfy you.
You must crave more and more until our already denuded and polluted
planet is stripped beyond what it can bear. Your value to society,
to the nation, and to your peers is not for the interesting and
loving person you are, but only as a consumer.
There is good news, however. We are learning. The desire to change
society in ways better suited to our humanity is growing. It is a
desire that may be as old as civilization itself.
For nearly ten
thousand years most human beings have accepted the world they were
born into, but there are exceptions, models that are woven into our
dreams and hopes - and our tales.
Confucius and Lao Tse told of
better, more ideal ways to act in society, Buddha, Socrates, Hillel,
Jesus, Mohammed, Rumi, St. Anthony, Francis of Assisi, George Fox,
Karl Marx, Robert Owen, Sri Aurobindo, Mohandas Gandhi, Martin
Luther King Jr.,
...are only a few of the thousands of thinkers who
dreamed of a better world, a list that should include the Peacemaker
of the Six Nations, Sweet Medicine, Wovoka, and Black Elk.
Here you may learn of that desire turned into action.
In
this book you will find brief introductions into the stories of
some of the people who have aspired to change the world in the
twentieth century. They are people who absented many of the
structures of civilization to build communities that might more
closely respond to their ideas of an ideal society.
More of the book will recount my own
experiences and observations among some of these successful
alternatives which are making lives more satisfying and fun…
I therefore very humbly submit these findings to all the many
communities and eco-villages now flourishing around the globe.
I hope
that many will wish to take them to develop for themselves, in their
community processes, interpersonal relationships, and most
importantly in their relations with their children, learning from
them, staying close and helping them, and making the world our
playground, the Earth our garden.